Settling the Self

In choosing everything that it is and everything it isn't creates a powerful context for life. Placing the self in driver mode brings on a sense of acceptance. Everything in life is exactly the way you designed or created it. How it falls, lands, opens up, the direction and path taken, all driven by one person.

Choice takes out the "being carried through life" mode. Grounded in choice is really a moment to confront what it looks like to be living your life. It's very matter of fact, it's just the way it is. Energy is re-directed because "I choose" is at the source of your own power to give life direction. Accepting removes all that energy given into resisting what isn't, frees the self into seeing something previously undefined.

Choice removes victim language: blaming, making someone wrong, anger, annoyance, frustration, wishing, living in the past. "I choose" frees up the individual to find solutions and/or accept, to be 100% present, living out there and not in the head.

Career wise, this is the time period called "reflection" where the teacher feels settled, everything comes together with a good sense of the culture, the program, and success is reached in just about every sphere. Output matches or outstrips energy input, results are positive, the kids are working well, on task behavior, less communicated frustration all round. Plans for the new school year begin perculating in the head. The individual lives into the future of possibilities, beyond survival.

The Effectiveness class defines these methods of being effective: Formulation, planning what needs to happen, when, how - something that's been vastly missing in my latest undertakings; Concentration, working at making it happen, where my energy input out matches results; momentum where things take off with a life of it's own while still being in action; and then stability where minimal effort is needed to keep it operational.

Interesting that in applying these "distinctions" to the project (creating an art exhibit for select art teachers), I find myself effortlessly effective as a teacher, prepping in advance, keeping up with student work, rotating and scanning consistently, using a kinder tone of voice, and actually having a clear desk at day's end. Focusing on learning "how to" in one area of life is like unraveling a knitted thread, just pull and everything is connected.

Chocolate, vanilla - choose