I am present that when I'm out of integrity, everything else shows up in my life as being out of integrity. For instance, my participants who need to contact me consistently cannot for whatever reason follow through on their word. I set the alarm for the wrong time and did not follow through on my accountablility call... and so it goes. Kinda like the dominos effect. Look in one area in of life where it's not working and check it out - see how it shows up in the other areas. Clearly, I have a "thing" for numbers/times. Yesterday, I said I'd be at the movie for the 6:30pm show - I was there exactly at 6:30pm. Something inside my head did not trigger to meet for 6:10pm to make sure we get the tickets, popcorn, find nice seats... I need to be responsible for numbers/times.
So life gives me and everyone else breakdowns, where upsets happen. It's pulling those breakdowns that breakthroughs happen, as opposed to working around it, pretending it doesn't exist, hiding it.
I can see elements of my conversation where I am given to being taken care of, or being rescued. I even said that it's great that Mike can kayak because he can "rescue" me during our moonlight kayak lesson. He said he does not rescue anyone around water. Great answer. The one person that gets to rescue me is me. I've done that my whole adult single life care of myself and others.
These are younger age conversations looking to be upgraded to who I am today.
Leaving you with this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ERbvKrH-GC4
Sunday, May 4, 2008
Saturday, April 26, 2008
Mixing it Up
Last night I checked out for the first time Drag Lounge Blues dancing. It is a sensual mix of salsa and bacchata. In one lesson (their second last of a series) we covered basic, lunge, double turn out, free spin into lunge, side step, and the skip - all with hip movement. Interesting that it came out of Black social dancing, remaining an underground dance second to Swing dancing and stays in its same flavour today.
Yesterday my art students went outside the second time for plein air landscape pastel, practical design students worked on researching Toy Inventions (5 my choice, 5 their choice, 5 global with comparison and contrast). These last two days have been a breather and break from what's predictable. 24 days left of teaching and learning need to mix things up and I need to go in to pack up the storage room for our May 15th move into the new building. These last two days were a break from assigning lunch detentions for those who are so very far behind their watercolor painting. Yes, I get to hang out with my friends.
Heather borrowed me to go Kentucky Derby hat and shoe shopping at Arizona Mills. I discovered a whole slew of stores for smaller sizes, and also learned how to exit without getting lost. Way cool. She was successful with a medium brim $8 hat, $10 shawl, and $20 beautiful and comfortable navy pumps. We did walk out of Nieman Marcus last chance store stunned with their special price of $275 down from $700 for a pair of shoes. Some of them quite beautiful.
Tomorrow, it's dim sum with art teachers as a closing celebration, then scoot from Chandler to North Scottsdale to Ayala Bar jewelry party with friends, head on over to Little Rangoon at Scottsdale and Shea to host their Burmese and Water Festival (first of its kind here) for the Meet Up group with 12 participants. So much fun when I post something on the calendar I get so many as a "yes."
Today is my free day to catch up, laundry, go to school, pack, and hang out with Mike.
I absolutely love my life
there's so much freedom
aliveness
and
joy
Yesterday my art students went outside the second time for plein air landscape pastel, practical design students worked on researching Toy Inventions (5 my choice, 5 their choice, 5 global with comparison and contrast). These last two days have been a breather and break from what's predictable. 24 days left of teaching and learning need to mix things up and I need to go in to pack up the storage room for our May 15th move into the new building. These last two days were a break from assigning lunch detentions for those who are so very far behind their watercolor painting. Yes, I get to hang out with my friends.
Heather borrowed me to go Kentucky Derby hat and shoe shopping at Arizona Mills. I discovered a whole slew of stores for smaller sizes, and also learned how to exit without getting lost. Way cool. She was successful with a medium brim $8 hat, $10 shawl, and $20 beautiful and comfortable navy pumps. We did walk out of Nieman Marcus last chance store stunned with their special price of $275 down from $700 for a pair of shoes. Some of them quite beautiful.
Tomorrow, it's dim sum with art teachers as a closing celebration, then scoot from Chandler to North Scottsdale to Ayala Bar jewelry party with friends, head on over to Little Rangoon at Scottsdale and Shea to host their Burmese and Water Festival (first of its kind here) for the Meet Up group with 12 participants. So much fun when I post something on the calendar I get so many as a "yes."
Today is my free day to catch up, laundry, go to school, pack, and hang out with Mike.
I absolutely love my life
there's so much freedom
aliveness
and
joy
Sunday, April 20, 2008
Memory Game
This has everything to growing those dendrites, it's what I keep telling my students, everything you do in this class is to grow dendrites. It bypasses that argument of how is this relevant to my life as a doctor/accountant/lawyer... except this site is for everyone and anyone out there in or out of school.
http://www.happy-neuron.com/
On Saturday I went for my City Team training, and it's so wonderful that we are to get out of being in an assisting agreement twice more than we put in. So there's a whole bunch of "what's in it for me" to balance off the whole idea of being contribution. Nurturing and replenishing the self first to be of service.
Being with and allowing the other to be with themselves and you is huge. The creation of a space to exist for everything you are and everything you are not. Acceptance. Loving of the other is acceptance.
Having and doing is the act of surviving, we do abc to have xyz. What do we need to do next, and then we'll have the results that we want which leads into being .... happy, successful.....
Living a life you love goes beyond surviving.
In connecting with the other, it's being, how you are being to be related: as in being a jerk, being considerate, being generous, being abundant, being courageous... sometimes, we have to give up one state of being to take on another. Give up "being right" to take on being acceptance. It takes a special kind of listening for yourself, the space you're in, and the other to see what needs to happen. Our whole lives are given to being right, avoid dominating, dominating, resisting, we see it in movies, hear it in songs, read about it... to step into giving that kind of learned behavior up and take on being something that makes a difference takes courage. Something worthy, different, and unusual opens up for both parties.
It is in being that we are driven to do (our being drives our actions... being a jerk drives the action of harsh sounding words, gestures, and actions; being generous is held in the body, voice, gestures, actions...) in so doing then we end up having the results we crave, such as freedom, affinity, relatedness. Sometimes, it's the split second act of giving up a behavior and supplanting it with something that's powerful which will transform the situation immediately.
Here's an example. I was starving before my Lindy Hop class. Walked into a place, picked up chocolate nuts and water bottle and waited in line to pay. The young guy was taking his forever time to haul out his wallet, take out his change (you know the story). I was being the jerk, rolling my eyes, body language tight, tapping foot, sigh. I could totally tell this was not cool behavior and my starving stomach was unhappy. Being a jerk is held in the body, break the body language and it breaks the pattern. Since I couldn't mentally give up my discomfort. I physically changed my stance, literally shook my arms, looked up, puffed my chest up, took a breathe, smiled. Immediately, I saw the impact of my behavior.
The teller and young man were tense, constrained, and each making the other wrong, glaring, looking down. I immediately said I was sorry for my behavior, told him to take his time (all with real smiles and warm voice). He then said it was his first time he had eaten since the morning (it was 5pm). In that moment everyone was relaxed and the tension lifted. My whole occuring world shifted to one of peace, acceptance, and love.
It takes one person to change a relationship.
Will that be you?
http://www.happy-neuron.com/
On Saturday I went for my City Team training, and it's so wonderful that we are to get out of being in an assisting agreement twice more than we put in. So there's a whole bunch of "what's in it for me" to balance off the whole idea of being contribution. Nurturing and replenishing the self first to be of service.
Being with and allowing the other to be with themselves and you is huge. The creation of a space to exist for everything you are and everything you are not. Acceptance. Loving of the other is acceptance.
Having and doing is the act of surviving, we do abc to have xyz. What do we need to do next, and then we'll have the results that we want which leads into being .... happy, successful.....
Living a life you love goes beyond surviving.
In connecting with the other, it's being, how you are being to be related: as in being a jerk, being considerate, being generous, being abundant, being courageous... sometimes, we have to give up one state of being to take on another. Give up "being right" to take on being acceptance. It takes a special kind of listening for yourself, the space you're in, and the other to see what needs to happen. Our whole lives are given to being right, avoid dominating, dominating, resisting, we see it in movies, hear it in songs, read about it... to step into giving that kind of learned behavior up and take on being something that makes a difference takes courage. Something worthy, different, and unusual opens up for both parties.
It is in being that we are driven to do (our being drives our actions... being a jerk drives the action of harsh sounding words, gestures, and actions; being generous is held in the body, voice, gestures, actions...) in so doing then we end up having the results we crave, such as freedom, affinity, relatedness. Sometimes, it's the split second act of giving up a behavior and supplanting it with something that's powerful which will transform the situation immediately.
Here's an example. I was starving before my Lindy Hop class. Walked into a place, picked up chocolate nuts and water bottle and waited in line to pay. The young guy was taking his forever time to haul out his wallet, take out his change (you know the story). I was being the jerk, rolling my eyes, body language tight, tapping foot, sigh. I could totally tell this was not cool behavior and my starving stomach was unhappy. Being a jerk is held in the body, break the body language and it breaks the pattern. Since I couldn't mentally give up my discomfort. I physically changed my stance, literally shook my arms, looked up, puffed my chest up, took a breathe, smiled. Immediately, I saw the impact of my behavior.
The teller and young man were tense, constrained, and each making the other wrong, glaring, looking down. I immediately said I was sorry for my behavior, told him to take his time (all with real smiles and warm voice). He then said it was his first time he had eaten since the morning (it was 5pm). In that moment everyone was relaxed and the tension lifted. My whole occuring world shifted to one of peace, acceptance, and love.
It takes one person to change a relationship.
Will that be you?
Saturday, April 12, 2008
Settling the Self
In choosing everything that it is and everything it isn't creates a powerful context for life. Placing the self in driver mode brings on a sense of acceptance. Everything in life is exactly the way you designed or created it. How it falls, lands, opens up, the direction and path taken, all driven by one person.
Choice takes out the "being carried through life" mode. Grounded in choice is really a moment to confront what it looks like to be living your life. It's very matter of fact, it's just the way it is. Energy is re-directed because "I choose" is at the source of your own power to give life direction. Accepting removes all that energy given into resisting what isn't, frees the self into seeing something previously undefined.
Choice removes victim language: blaming, making someone wrong, anger, annoyance, frustration, wishing, living in the past. "I choose" frees up the individual to find solutions and/or accept, to be 100% present, living out there and not in the head.
Career wise, this is the time period called "reflection" where the teacher feels settled, everything comes together with a good sense of the culture, the program, and success is reached in just about every sphere. Output matches or outstrips energy input, results are positive, the kids are working well, on task behavior, less communicated frustration all round. Plans for the new school year begin perculating in the head. The individual lives into the future of possibilities, beyond survival.
The Effectiveness class defines these methods of being effective: Formulation, planning what needs to happen, when, how - something that's been vastly missing in my latest undertakings; Concentration, working at making it happen, where my energy input out matches results; momentum where things take off with a life of it's own while still being in action; and then stability where minimal effort is needed to keep it operational.
Interesting that in applying these "distinctions" to the project (creating an art exhibit for select art teachers), I find myself effortlessly effective as a teacher, prepping in advance, keeping up with student work, rotating and scanning consistently, using a kinder tone of voice, and actually having a clear desk at day's end. Focusing on learning "how to" in one area of life is like unraveling a knitted thread, just pull and everything is connected.
Chocolate, vanilla - choose
Choice takes out the "being carried through life" mode. Grounded in choice is really a moment to confront what it looks like to be living your life. It's very matter of fact, it's just the way it is. Energy is re-directed because "I choose" is at the source of your own power to give life direction. Accepting removes all that energy given into resisting what isn't, frees the self into seeing something previously undefined.
Choice removes victim language: blaming, making someone wrong, anger, annoyance, frustration, wishing, living in the past. "I choose" frees up the individual to find solutions and/or accept, to be 100% present, living out there and not in the head.
Career wise, this is the time period called "reflection" where the teacher feels settled, everything comes together with a good sense of the culture, the program, and success is reached in just about every sphere. Output matches or outstrips energy input, results are positive, the kids are working well, on task behavior, less communicated frustration all round. Plans for the new school year begin perculating in the head. The individual lives into the future of possibilities, beyond survival.
The Effectiveness class defines these methods of being effective: Formulation, planning what needs to happen, when, how - something that's been vastly missing in my latest undertakings; Concentration, working at making it happen, where my energy input out matches results; momentum where things take off with a life of it's own while still being in action; and then stability where minimal effort is needed to keep it operational.
Interesting that in applying these "distinctions" to the project (creating an art exhibit for select art teachers), I find myself effortlessly effective as a teacher, prepping in advance, keeping up with student work, rotating and scanning consistently, using a kinder tone of voice, and actually having a clear desk at day's end. Focusing on learning "how to" in one area of life is like unraveling a knitted thread, just pull and everything is connected.
Chocolate, vanilla - choose
Friday, March 28, 2008
Leadership
This is living into the future of almost finished. The District Honors art show is complete. In preparing for the event there are different kinds of leaders; the dictator who directs everything, the facilitator who allows other's strengths to take over, and the abdicator who does nothing. Many teachers like the whole sense of control over minute detail. That would not be me, and I'm thankful to be surrounded by detail, schedule oriented individuals.
In the space of planning, pulling together the event I tapped into the strengths of powerful players. Kelli had already organized the structure, where/when/how last year as lead, we as a committee had 98% of the teachers wanting it as a District art show. We even had dance, theater, orchestra performing.
Then as the event unfolded voices found forum around the letter/program design, posters, certificates. I made my fair share of ooops, re-writes, and slip ups. Hah! The evening was a huge success. A majority showed up, and a core group stayed to help wrap up. Today, Richard, Allison and myself packed and sorted the display panels with play, song, and smiles.
The reverberations of positives was truly outstanding. All our administrators were present - huge victory as none have ever attended previously. Everyone loved the location. Interesting, the consistently unhappy voices stayed unhappy and found things to be unhappy about and that was okay. The forward thinkers took initiative and became productive about setbacks, marvellous. I want them at my side when something critical happens.
What I learned about myself is that I do put my ideas out there to the committee and wait for their response. At some point, there is no response, I make a decision and just do it. I am in action and will accept the impact of my choice. It used to be I would wait for everyone else to share and then I'd say something - or not, be safe.
As a leader I receive a lot of flack - those unhappy individuals will murmur, rumble, grumble, and moan and I'm at the receiving end. It's totally about them and their dis - ease. I take responsibility for loss of integrity (my slip ups) and give them their voice. It's all about community and relating.
I can see why I worked so hard to avoid leadership, play it safe, keep a low profile. Now that I've a taste of being in the forefront, making things happen, I can see why people love it and are drawn to leadership, thirsty for more. All that discomfort around change is well worth the result of drawing out other's strengths to bring about a collaborative success.
Two months of Lead District Art Teacher, one meeting with studio work, one party meeting at the end, and I hand over the title to my friend and co-worker Susan. I will be complete with my leadership in grand scale. Learning to lead is ongoing. We are all born leaders - we just have to give ourselves permission to explore that terrain and find our style. Claim our birthright.
The inner city teacher is thankful 8th graders graduate and go onto high school and have the opportunity to get a job stacking supermarket shelves. The upscale suburban teacher speaks to the students as future world leaders who have a huge impact on the society. We live into the language we speak about ourselves and we create others in language.
In the space of planning, pulling together the event I tapped into the strengths of powerful players. Kelli had already organized the structure, where/when/how last year as lead, we as a committee had 98% of the teachers wanting it as a District art show. We even had dance, theater, orchestra performing.
Then as the event unfolded voices found forum around the letter/program design, posters, certificates. I made my fair share of ooops, re-writes, and slip ups. Hah! The evening was a huge success. A majority showed up, and a core group stayed to help wrap up. Today, Richard, Allison and myself packed and sorted the display panels with play, song, and smiles.
The reverberations of positives was truly outstanding. All our administrators were present - huge victory as none have ever attended previously. Everyone loved the location. Interesting, the consistently unhappy voices stayed unhappy and found things to be unhappy about and that was okay. The forward thinkers took initiative and became productive about setbacks, marvellous. I want them at my side when something critical happens.
What I learned about myself is that I do put my ideas out there to the committee and wait for their response. At some point, there is no response, I make a decision and just do it. I am in action and will accept the impact of my choice. It used to be I would wait for everyone else to share and then I'd say something - or not, be safe.
As a leader I receive a lot of flack - those unhappy individuals will murmur, rumble, grumble, and moan and I'm at the receiving end. It's totally about them and their dis - ease. I take responsibility for loss of integrity (my slip ups) and give them their voice. It's all about community and relating.
I can see why I worked so hard to avoid leadership, play it safe, keep a low profile. Now that I've a taste of being in the forefront, making things happen, I can see why people love it and are drawn to leadership, thirsty for more. All that discomfort around change is well worth the result of drawing out other's strengths to bring about a collaborative success.
Two months of Lead District Art Teacher, one meeting with studio work, one party meeting at the end, and I hand over the title to my friend and co-worker Susan. I will be complete with my leadership in grand scale. Learning to lead is ongoing. We are all born leaders - we just have to give ourselves permission to explore that terrain and find our style. Claim our birthright.
The inner city teacher is thankful 8th graders graduate and go onto high school and have the opportunity to get a job stacking supermarket shelves. The upscale suburban teacher speaks to the students as future world leaders who have a huge impact on the society. We live into the language we speak about ourselves and we create others in language.
Thursday, March 13, 2008
Swing Dancing
Swing dancing is truly amazing, it's a unique conversation to have using a whole other dimension and integrates all the phsyical senses in silence. The reaction is immediate and requires being present, or lost.
Swing culture does not discriminate, you can dance, you say yes and you're on the dance floor. Tall, short, no fingers, one leg shorter than the other - you can dance. Time flashes by through play, laughter, movement, as various partners revolve through the music. We are all fed with the need for human touch where hugs, side pecks are abolished as safe greeting practice and shoulder pats relegated to the few deserving.
Ladies know guys names long before getting to know each other, same with guys. Some are there soley to dance, others in a mate search.
How a person asks you to dance, holds, sends out, spins, brings in says so much about their nature: structured, loose, forgiving, bold, dynamic, flexible. How they correct you also tells you something about themselves: the hyper-critical little voice in their head, the gentle soft voice of concern, the non-emotional "just the facts" approach. How fast can they learn a dance step and make it their own - or can they? Do they give up easily or stay? Do they only ask safe partners that make them look good? Truly fascinating.
We are used to a culture of expressive spoken language, and within the dance community a whole different world of language exposes us through behavior. Who are we for each other, how we relate through the medium of dance, we represent a small proportion of the population who enjoy moving our bodies through music. Used to be every culture, every age integrated dance ritual as norm.
There is a distinct difference between dancing with the other and dancing by yourself. Sometimes it's easier to get lost into the music and forget the other exists, ideally it's the melding of the music, communication with the other which makes for a fabulous, fun moment.
My feet hurt, danced till 11:00 last night and the night before, and will do once again on Saturday night. It's March Break. Met Joan for lunch and she says there is a time for harvest in life. Harvest to her is: after she's worked through all the ups and downs, the kids are all grown up, have their own lives, she reaps the joy of enjoying her grandchildren. Her family is everything to her. She had her kids stay in State university so they would be married in State and perpetuate the next generation close at hand. I love her because she is centered, a far thinking woman for what works for her. This time round, Joan did not ask me any deep thinking questions, she gave whole bunches of insights, narratives, and examples. She was full of abundance.
There are not many things I'm truly committed to every day. Through my behaviors dance is a priority, building a relationship with Mike, maintaining my connection with Nina, being a teacher who makes a difference, oh and developing myself intrinsically - that's about it. Everything else is a side dish: volunteering, spending time with friends, discovering new places to eat/have fun, traveling, taking on leadership positions, working on my art, starting a new exhibit for the art teachers, catching up on the house.
Behaviors says a lot about you, on the dance floor and off.
Swing culture does not discriminate, you can dance, you say yes and you're on the dance floor. Tall, short, no fingers, one leg shorter than the other - you can dance. Time flashes by through play, laughter, movement, as various partners revolve through the music. We are all fed with the need for human touch where hugs, side pecks are abolished as safe greeting practice and shoulder pats relegated to the few deserving.
Ladies know guys names long before getting to know each other, same with guys. Some are there soley to dance, others in a mate search.
How a person asks you to dance, holds, sends out, spins, brings in says so much about their nature: structured, loose, forgiving, bold, dynamic, flexible. How they correct you also tells you something about themselves: the hyper-critical little voice in their head, the gentle soft voice of concern, the non-emotional "just the facts" approach. How fast can they learn a dance step and make it their own - or can they? Do they give up easily or stay? Do they only ask safe partners that make them look good? Truly fascinating.
We are used to a culture of expressive spoken language, and within the dance community a whole different world of language exposes us through behavior. Who are we for each other, how we relate through the medium of dance, we represent a small proportion of the population who enjoy moving our bodies through music. Used to be every culture, every age integrated dance ritual as norm.
There is a distinct difference between dancing with the other and dancing by yourself. Sometimes it's easier to get lost into the music and forget the other exists, ideally it's the melding of the music, communication with the other which makes for a fabulous, fun moment.
My feet hurt, danced till 11:00 last night and the night before, and will do once again on Saturday night. It's March Break. Met Joan for lunch and she says there is a time for harvest in life. Harvest to her is: after she's worked through all the ups and downs, the kids are all grown up, have their own lives, she reaps the joy of enjoying her grandchildren. Her family is everything to her. She had her kids stay in State university so they would be married in State and perpetuate the next generation close at hand. I love her because she is centered, a far thinking woman for what works for her. This time round, Joan did not ask me any deep thinking questions, she gave whole bunches of insights, narratives, and examples. She was full of abundance.
There are not many things I'm truly committed to every day. Through my behaviors dance is a priority, building a relationship with Mike, maintaining my connection with Nina, being a teacher who makes a difference, oh and developing myself intrinsically - that's about it. Everything else is a side dish: volunteering, spending time with friends, discovering new places to eat/have fun, traveling, taking on leadership positions, working on my art, starting a new exhibit for the art teachers, catching up on the house.
Behaviors says a lot about you, on the dance floor and off.
Tuesday, March 11, 2008
Wisdom Journal
This is my second year of Wisdom, and this time as an Accomplishment Team Member. What does this mean? As graduate I sit at the back of the room along with 14 others and watch the participants process themselves and get their insights. We listen to their shares and learn who they are becoming.
My first weekend was this past one and what I saw was how my behavior was so much like theirs: significant, really have to do this, coming from a point of "there's something to fix." Today, none of that exists - just a sense of peacefulness and ease in taking any class or learning anything. Play comes easily to me, as in trying something from a whole different approach - physically, emotionally, mentally - more a sense of exploration.
People who have met me say I've grown/changed, and it's something I can't see for myself, until sitting in the back of the room, watching others who remind me of myself a year ago where play was non-existent and I was full of rigor with huge demands on myself and my time.
I get to repeat the Wisdom course in service - so it's free. In the room I am confronted with the conversation around being "transparent" since it's their course and about them. I lived the greater part of my life "hiding," hiding in the kitchen whipping up great foods, hiding behind the loudest person so I wouldn't have to speak. What came up for me is "I'm invisible once again." This time it's being transparent to be of service and having the opportunity to listen so who I am can make a difference in someone's insights. Sometimes a person needs to speak into someone's listening so they can be validated and see for themselves a life they want or need to release. Out of that growth happens on their part and mine. In hiding I am stifled, in transparency I am grounded.
What I want out of this course is the ability to listen to another in a way I have never done before, that's it's really about them, listen past their concerns to what's really needed, and allow them a space for creating themselves in adult as possibility. Generous listening.
I am continually confronted by my integrity, honoring my word, the integrity within my community - how did I contribute to breakdown, where does it need to be restored.
The second Wisdom Weekend is going to be in Alberqueque and we'll car pool with Anne offering her palatial home. Always wanted to hang out in Alberqueque - may even head off to Sante Fe with camera in tow.
One of the homework assignments this weekend was to amp up the feelings. However you are feelling in the moment, amp it up a little, turn up the volume a little. Right now I'm feeling raw and exposed, vulnerable, and it's okay. We live our lives stuffing feelings and emotions, our primary language, it's also how all thoughts get processed first - according to research.
My first weekend was this past one and what I saw was how my behavior was so much like theirs: significant, really have to do this, coming from a point of "there's something to fix." Today, none of that exists - just a sense of peacefulness and ease in taking any class or learning anything. Play comes easily to me, as in trying something from a whole different approach - physically, emotionally, mentally - more a sense of exploration.
People who have met me say I've grown/changed, and it's something I can't see for myself, until sitting in the back of the room, watching others who remind me of myself a year ago where play was non-existent and I was full of rigor with huge demands on myself and my time.
I get to repeat the Wisdom course in service - so it's free. In the room I am confronted with the conversation around being "transparent" since it's their course and about them. I lived the greater part of my life "hiding," hiding in the kitchen whipping up great foods, hiding behind the loudest person so I wouldn't have to speak. What came up for me is "I'm invisible once again." This time it's being transparent to be of service and having the opportunity to listen so who I am can make a difference in someone's insights. Sometimes a person needs to speak into someone's listening so they can be validated and see for themselves a life they want or need to release. Out of that growth happens on their part and mine. In hiding I am stifled, in transparency I am grounded.
What I want out of this course is the ability to listen to another in a way I have never done before, that's it's really about them, listen past their concerns to what's really needed, and allow them a space for creating themselves in adult as possibility. Generous listening.
I am continually confronted by my integrity, honoring my word, the integrity within my community - how did I contribute to breakdown, where does it need to be restored.
The second Wisdom Weekend is going to be in Alberqueque and we'll car pool with Anne offering her palatial home. Always wanted to hang out in Alberqueque - may even head off to Sante Fe with camera in tow.
One of the homework assignments this weekend was to amp up the feelings. However you are feelling in the moment, amp it up a little, turn up the volume a little. Right now I'm feeling raw and exposed, vulnerable, and it's okay. We live our lives stuffing feelings and emotions, our primary language, it's also how all thoughts get processed first - according to research.
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